Blissfully Dry Day

Today, baby went the whole day diaper free with all pees landing in the potty. That is, not one spill to clean up. Even during nap. What a wonderful oasis of hope in the midst of my potty learning stress!
Yesterday didn’t go so well. She peed on the potty a couple times in the morning, and when offered the option, voted for panties over diapers for our grocery shopping trip. She wet herself after we’d been in the store for less than a minute. Fortunately, I had packed a complete change of clothes, so we went back to the car and peed a bit more (yes. I held her and let her pee on the ground. It’s muddy dirt in an industrial area of town, and I’m okay with that, and I don’t mind if you’re not). Clean, fresh, we went back in. Shopped (she had her own grocery list :). I love that girl!), browsed, then nursed to recover from something that upset her. Then wet again. Fortunately, I had packed two complete changes of clothing. But two was my limit, so we went home after that. And at home, after she ran around bare for a while, I found a LARGE pool of pee on the floor.

I think that my openness yesterday to lots of wetting kind of helped with today. She’s a baby, she might wet, nothing to get upset about.

Today, we cued her to sit on the potty. A lot. She was occasionally resistant, but that’s okay as I learn that she doesn’t always have to pee when I want her to. By midday, she had peed maybe 6 times on the potty. We were going to put a diaper on her for nap, but she said no – “I’m a big girl now, I go pee and poo in the potty, I don’t need to wear a diaper.” Okay! No diaper, though we snuck a pad under her once she was asleep. Sure enough, she woke up dry and sat on the potty quickly and all was well.

The only diaper she wore today was at bedtime. She didn’t want to: “I’m big now, I don’t need a diaper.” So we talked about it. We talked about how she likes to wake up and have um nums at night. Does she want to get up and go potty in the middle of the night? No, not right now. And if she wets the bed, what will we do? “We can get up and change the sheets!” Do you want to change the sheets in the middle of the night? “No!” So she agreed to a diaper: “Otay.”

I’m hopeful. We now know that she can go dry for extended stretches. She is identifying with herself as a big girl who doesn’t need diapers and who pees on the potty. I expect that as we continue to cue her, she’ll start getting in the habit more of going herself and we can stretch out more between potty trips. I also know that this will be back and forth; there will be times when she’ll need a diaper; and I certainly expect more wet floors. However, things are in process and I can only say “Yay!”

Potty Success

After despairing that my daughter wouldn’t learn to use the potty until she was at least 4, I calmed down and have been excited to see how a more relaxed attitude, clear communication and lots of opportunities are getting her onto the potty much more than before.
I’ve taken a more directive approach to her first morning pee, turning it into something fun that we do together, and teasing her into a good mood so I can carry her to the potty first thing. The result has been a pleasant new ritual as we joke back and forth and then read stories, and frequent big pees on the potty first thing in the morning.

After that, we’ve been going diaper free for a little or a long while. I have been cueing her and working with her to get on the potty when I suspect or know she has to go. I’ve been leaning on my mom’s intuition, which is almost always right, and also checking timing around when she drinks what. The result has been generally accident-free mornings and 2 – 6 pees on the potty in a row.

After morning success, I don’t worry about it as much and pop a diaper on when we’re heading out of the house or on errands. In the evening we’ll often go diaper-free as well.

I’ve also been asking her to pee right before bath, putting on a diaper or leaving the house. Generally, she’ll go at these times.

She’s also been letting us know a lot more when she has to go. Sometimes she’ll just head over to the potty on her own, which is always delightful.

Tonight in bed, she didn’t go to sleep right away so I got her on the potty to pee. A while later, she was trying to crawl off the bed and would not stop. By that point I was feeling done for the night. I asked her why she had to get off the bed. “Pee!!!” Oh, okay! So we went to the potty, sat down and she peed. Awesome! Out in the park today, too, she was diaper free and nursing when she told me she had to pee. I bundled up the stroller and our things, rolled her to the bathroom, and held her over the potty. Pee!

At some point, I’m going to want to start trying outings without diapers. If we get her onto the potty frequently and don’t have long stretches in the car, it should be possible. It’s a leap of faith we’ll have to take at some point, and it’s exciting to think about.