Alya’s 5 months old. It’s high time I reflect on core truths about being a mom, and my deepest vision of the type of mother I want to be. Here goes.
\n1. When I am with my child, I am present.<\/p>\n
2. I respond to all aspects of her being with love and compassion – not judgment or frustration.<\/p>\n
3. While I try to know her profoundly, I also look at her with awe and curiosity, always alive to the mystery of her reality.<\/p>\n
4. In making parenting decisions and responding to her, I think about what will best help her grow into a loving, trusting, giving human. My ego gets shut out.<\/p>\n
I think that’s more than enough to start with. And these points highlight my biggest struggles as a parent. In fact, to call them struggles is to make myself sound better than I am, since sometimes I don’t even try to achieve them. My occasional perfectionism and desire to get things done-done-done rather than BE in the moment are the biggest weaknesses I see in myself, and the major weaknesses in my parenting. I know a child is a chance to learn. I want to learn.<\/p>\n
and just because I think I need to: some of my strengths.<\/p>\n
1. Love love loving and affectionate with my daughter.<\/p>\n
2. Trust her and listen to her – I respect her as a person and a communicator.<\/p>\n
3. Willing to put in the time to be with her.<\/p>\n
4. I’m aware that at some point (and continually) I need to balance doing for her and letting her do. I won’t always get it right, but I will work on it.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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